Anaïs Nin was a French-born American diarist, essayist, novelist, and writer of short stories and erotica. Born to Cuban parents in France, Nin was the daughter of the composer Joaquín Nin and the classically trained singer Rosa Culmell.
"You listen and you know you could live a better life than you do. Be softer, kinder. And maybe this year you will be able to do it."
It's not the weight you carry but how you carry it
- books, bricks, grief - It's all in the way you embrace it, balance it, carry it when you cannot, and would not, put it down. —Mary Oliver
That time
I thought I could not
go any closer to grief
without dying
I went closer,
and I did not die.
Surely God
had his hand in this,
as well as friends.
Still, I was bent,
and my laughter,
as the poet said,
was nowhere to be found.
Then said my friend Daniel,
(brave even among lions),
“It’s not the weight you carry
but how you carry it –
books, bricks, grief –
it’s all in the way
you embrace it, balance it, carry it
when you cannot, and would not,
put it down.”
So I went practicing.
Have you noticed?
Have you heard
the laughter
that comes, now and again,
out of my startled mouth?
How I linger
to admire, admire, admire
the things of this world
that are kind, and maybe
also troubled –
roses in the wind,
the sea geese on the steep waves,
a love
to which there is no reply?
— “Heavy” by Mary Oliver from Thirst.
To live in this world,
you must be able to do three things:
to love what is mortal; to hold it against your bones knowing your own life depends on it; and,
when the time comes to let it go, to let it go.
Mary Oliver
‘Keep some room in your heart for the unimaginable.’ Mary Oliver
